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Our expert date coach, Shannon, a seasoned human behaviourist and matchmaker, sees many success stories with her clients who sign up for professional and confidential dating services and advice. When it comes to dating intentionally, it’s easy to focus on red flags and warning signs because safe dating is top-of-mind – who am I engaging with exactly? However, it’s equally important to pay attention to green flags. These are signs that you’ve found a potential partner who is worth investing your time and energy into. It pays to get to know someone a bit better before committing to a new relationship, even if there is huge chemistry. Here are some green flags to look out for when dating:
Date Coach confirms Green Flags
Your date coach and matchmaker knows YOU, knows your needs, and knows the person they introduce you to – understanding your personality types, communication styles and dating strategies. They are well-placed to guide you and can confirm your gut feel and save a ton of angst and stress and debunk doubts.
Good communication: One of the most important aspects of any relationship is communication. A partner who is open, honest, and willing to communicate about their thoughts and feelings is a green flag. Look for someone who actively listens and can express themselves clearly and respectfully.
Shared values: While it’s okay to have differences, it’s important to share core values with your partner. This can include things like a shared belief in the importance of family, honesty, and respect for others. Lifestyle, culture and even religious or non-religious viewpoints need to be assessed too. A partner who shares your values is more likely to be a good match in the long-term.
Emotional maturity: Emotional maturity is another important quality in a partner. Someone who is emotionally mature can take responsibility for their actions, communicate effectively, and handle difficult situations in a calm and rational manner. They are also able to be empathetic and supportive towards others.
Respect: Respect is a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship. Look for a partner who treats you with respect, as well as others in their life. This includes being respectful towards your boundaries, beliefs, and opinions. Your matchmaker can help you spot a narcissist, bully, manipulator or co-dependent “type” by evaluating their responses and actions towards you and picking up on behaviour patterns. Maybe you are too critical? Maybe you are the one who needs to self-examine.
Shared interests: While it’s not necessary to have every interest in common, it can be very exciting to share your differences. Having some shared interests can help build a stronger connection. Look for a partner who is interested in some of the same things as you, and who is open to trying new things together. Someone who supports your interests and encourages you is a bonus, even if not their thing.
Trustworthiness: Who is truly trustworthy? Trust is essential in any relationship and is non-negotiable. Look for a prospective partner who is honest, dependable, follows through on their commitments and also delivers on their word. Someone who has an open book and is trustworthy is more likely to be a reliable partner in the long term. Secrets lead to doubt and this leads to hurt and resentment.
Supportive: You both have strong feelings for each other, right? You want to see each other happy! A caring and loving partner who is supportive of your goals and ambitions is a green flag. Look for someone who is encouraging and uplifting and who is willing to help you achieve your dreams even if they may not quite get it, they have your back.
Good boundaries: Boundaries are important in any healthy relationship. Look for a partner who can communicate their own boundaries clearly, and who respects your boundaries as well. This can include things like respecting your need for alone time or understanding your boundaries around physical intimacy.
Lasting Love bonds with your Soulmate
The search for lasting love that also spells a “forever after” is never easy – your matchmaker and dating agency provide huge support and comfort and saves time. Not everyone will be ‘right for you’ and managing ‘rejection’ wisely and in a mature way, is key.
In conclusion, you may need to kiss many frogs, and undoubtedly, you will kiss a prince who turns into a frog – dating can be a challenging process, but paying attention to green flags can help you find a partner who is worth investing your time and energy into. There are baby steps and also huge leaps of faith – be prepared for both. Keep an eye out for good communication, shared values, emotional maturity, respect, shared interests, trustworthiness, supportiveness, good boundaries, compatible lifestyles, and humility. By focusing on these green flags, you can increase your chances of finding a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
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