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A Confident Bachelor Finally Understands Women!

Thanks for the input dear Shannon! I cannot begin to explain and thank you enough for all the guidance and fantastic coaching (and awesome intros to the loveliest ladies in SA!) I have received. I now understand why you say we all need a “frame of reference” on the dating game before we go out like bulls in a china shop!! I was the worst bull!! Despite being a scientist and doctor and a man of the world and good standing, and taking 20 years to understand life at a cellular level, I realise I knew little about the female of the species. My dating style at best was a bunch of flowers and, I hate to admit, trying to be a lady pleaser, which got me nowhere most of the time. Please see below what I have sussed out!

The ladies do have their insecurities and trust does not always come easy or quickly at all of course.

One must tread slowly and carefully every step of the way but must make sure you move enough and make the right moves at the right times. They like a confident and strong man who is not afraid.

A lesson I have learned is to be very honest and very communicative very early, talking a lot about steps, respects and the gradual process of getting to know. Know quickly what they require in the physical arena (hands and hugs or a bit of cuddling). With anything more…. if move not right or at all uninvited, they will retract into their ever-present shell quickly again. You can clearly feel with the sensitive ones all are of the opinion that men are just too physically demanding and inconsiderate – obviously from experience.

Communicate, communicate and explain how you feel, even own your insecurities and even laugh at yourself (this shows humility and absolute honesty). I am now starting a relationship with a wonderful lady, and she is the type who definitely appreciates this as she is sensitive and particular about expectations and clarity is great security and predictability for her. You caution always, and is so true “a lady must feel safe” and you sure ensure that!

Our two wavelengths are somehow so much better (well) matched thanks to your careful profiling……. one can just sense it at a first meet… and it provided so much confidence for a better chance of a good and happy match. I am treated like a MAN and not a wimp or a means to an end, and then, even more, I want to be more man!! I want to puff out my chest and I walk tall! I feel already I can take bullets for my new flame!

But one has to be alert and quick and so careful, with the sensitive ladies (who seem so strong and confident to the world and in their work) as insecurities cause things to be misinterpreted by them quickly and then their hurt sensors can trigger a mayor very damaging (in confidence and commitment) shutdown, maybe even immediately permanent shutdown. There are often not any second chances with insecure ladies. Please continue to teach your ladies to understand US TOO!!!

Kind regards

Your protégé

MN

When Dating is Guaranteed to be Safe and Fun - So Risk It!

Dear Shannon

You are an encouragement and a rock star for sure.  I looked at myself and how prejudiced I have been. I have really missed many golden opportunities and I now realise I should just relax and trust the processes because you guys cannot humanly give more than you do to give all us yearning singles dating out there every chance! What is there to fear?

The more I understand your date coaching, protocols and processes  I realise I have maybe believed in some fairy tale……and maybe why I remain single and unfulfilled because I am fixated on a ghost …..my perfect match is not going to arrive on my doorstep, diamond ring in hand!!

Dating is hard work but fun and choosing a “forever partner” is not a frivolous matter! You are right, a stranger is only a stranger until you meet, and then reality can kick in if there is potential, and you have armed me well with excellent advice and authentic info on the guys to meet.

I must admit, your Team has sent me more awesome guys than I would ever meet, nor have actually met in ages, and I am sorry I have not been more proactive.  I ask myself, what was I expecting? It is not like ordering a pizza with favourite toppings!!  “I want this, I want that” ……..it is a journey of discovery and such a precious gift to be on your dating site and so well looked after! I am going to show my gratitude by being more courageous and open to making new “friends”…..we are all here to let love find us!

I guess the traditional person in me sometimes stands in the way. I do remind myself this is 2019! Nothing is the same as the old days with the old parameters when seriously seek your “forever after” . LOL!

Perhaps it’s good to have a chance to meet everyone after all, please keep up the steady flow, I am going to be more of a team player!

Kind regards
Lebo

Response from Shannon

Your professional matchmaker has your back when seeking a partner!

Shannon has good advice and gives encouragement to Lebo who finally realised that prejudice was holding her back.  Is it fear of the unknown?

Yes, it is so human to “stereotype” because we all only know what we know …until we “know” something else or something outside our comfort zones or thinking…….if Columbus believed his Queen that the world was flat and he would fall off the edge if he set sail for the unknown, we would still belong to the Flat Earth Society, LOL!

It is smart to explore the challenging, the unknown and even weird……..especially in a safe environment like this where we do everything we can to stick to “normal and safe”….hahahaha, so we too are victims too of “safe bubble syndrome”……how funny!

But YOU ROCK dear Lebo!!  Indeed, why not?  We have had a few cases like this where members just met someone for the hell of it ……maybe destiny….and even if they did not fall in love, went on to be extremely powerful business partners and lifelong friends……even adding much value to the world they could not have done alone ……it will be what it will be!! J

It is just a rendezvous to see how you click ……….love finds us when we open doors……..and there are a million possibilities!!  Our accurate singles matching and date profiling always ensures you have some common ground to start a new love interest with a guy who WANTS to meet you!

Seeing you get a sound assessment and basic qualities of a new potential match, why not give it a chance and risk meeting, especially if you like what you see, never mind the “ifs, buts and maybes”? Always work on evidence…….you meet, you like ..or simply, you do not wish to explore further! No logical human is going to look at a pic or profile and swoon with love!!  Attraction may be exciting, but that is nowhere near a budding romance!

Love and light then for a super great day further ….and keep the new approach…explore the “unknown” …always!!

Fond Regards
Shannon

My Dating Agency Rocks!

Hi dearest Shannon,

MY DATING AGENCY ROCKS!!

Dating is hard work!  I realise more and more that patience pays off, if we appealed to everyone there would be no singles dating and no expert matchmakers or date coaches needed!  You truly are the best expert and professional dating agency around – not just throwing dates at me but caring about my every move, thank you.

Thanks so much for your simplistic idea on time and life’s journey, it is a beautiful way of looking at life, so true, every moment in time is taking us to some final destination (because we all have one, one day), and being stuck in one spot after a break-up brings no joy or fulfilment, it is over and done with and needs to be boxed!!  I am back on “the dating train” and not giving up on finding love!

So I am very happy to meet with GE, and I have finally moved on from SJ, I really needed this nudge to get on with life and meet the awesome bachelors you have been introducing to me….here I go with renewed energy!

I want to thank you again for being really expert date coaches and professional matchmakers for our corporate dating world, in my 7 months with you I have learnt so much, see dating, love and relationships through new eyes, and am very empowered now to make better – and lasting – decisions!

All the date tips helped prepare me, and your “in the moment” coaching is better than getting a PhD in dating, if there was a place to even get this! LOL!

My fondest wishes to you all, and keep up the good work – you are the best dating site ever!

Fond Regards
Miriam

Response from Shannon

Awesome angel, you rock as always!!  Proud of you and honoured to be your date coach and matchmaker!!  I empathise after your break-up, but please see it as a way to make the next “trial” even better……..what is meant to be, will be!  Dating sites abound and it is a minefield, keep to your “selective” matches and save energy and time, we are always looking after you with eligible bachelors to meet. I have never looked back since using a dating agency and you are the best!

It is so necessary to keep with the flow when us singles are dating, and the rhythm of life when single and dating on your road to find soul mate love is what it is…..and so easy to stagnate, we get into a bit of a comfort zone and it just is so less hassle and my dog is still my best friend, so who needs a date, LOL? But there is plenty time to do that one day when we arrive at our destination, even if it is a pit stop …….life is full of gifts!!

I have a very wise relationship mentor/guru and he asked me a while back “where do you see yourself down the line?”…….”down the line” was quite descriptive because time and the future is relative and infinite….as a dating agency it is up to keep the momentum going. We do the work, you have the fun!

I said my life is this train and it is headed to the end of the journey as surely every journey has an end, sure as nuts, when or where is to be revealed one day.

In the meantime, the train stops at little stations along the way and I get off and explore, and once ready, it is hop back on the train to the next stop down the line…..and every stop is the “now” that I revel in, enjoy, “feel” and just appreciate ……….better even for the next stop!  Successful dating is the same, forward momentum, stop to explore, if love does not find you, you move on to the next stop!

One day you find the “stop” which you do not want to leave, just yet, and only time will tell when …….until life forces you back on the train ……J  (not exactly rocket science, hee hee, but that is how I see it!  Momentum never stops!). And then we keep in mind, there is a terminus and it all ends, so never waste a moment.

Great then on SJ …….he too is so wrapped in his journey….maybe he will get off his juggernaut and also stop to appreciate the “now”, with some encouragement! J

Brilliant on GE …….believe it, if successful, the rewards are beyond imagination!  If not, our train moves on angel!!

Have the most awesome day, and BIG HUGS!!

Lotsa love and light until next time!

Fond Regards
Shannon

A very happy VIP member!

Hello dear Shannon,

You never cease to surprise me………..you are not just an expert and caring matchmaker, but a magician for us all……. from a hectic year and mad schedule to endless and absolute lovely profiles now that I am back in action and dying to get my dating and love life going…….… shows your winning spirit and not accepting failure or forgetting a client… awesome attitude…….thank you for never giving up on me!  I will try to give more regular feedback to keep the dating going at a good tempo…..I feel lucky that 2019 will see me find my perfect match and soul mate.

Yes , Please check with Marie and if she wants to meet with me I would be thrilled to bits. She looks lovely……like all your lovely ladies, I can see she takes care of her outer as much as her inner and seems very interesting, not just a beautiful face! This IS an awesome date!

Not sure if I have missed the deadline yet. I think you say you closed your intros yesterday .. I seem to have missed your email in my crazy December schedule.. but if you still feel there is time for you to speak to her and introduce her to me it would be great……..

I am however away for 9 days from This Sunday 23rd to 3rd of January  and will gladly meet with her when I’m back. If it is possible for you to speak with her prior to me leaving on Sunday I could call her just to introduce myself if she so wants…

Let’s see if you can really swing this date………

And by the way….. I’m the best, coolest and most handsome 48 year old year with a spunky view on life and an old soul with ancient wisdom she can hope to meet….. Haa.. Haa… ..kidding……. don’t tell her this ….she needs to find out for herself. I don’t wish to sound arrogant!

I want to take this opportunity to wish you, your family and your staff an awesome and blessed festive and x’mas season…… thanks for being such a cool and full of fun chick..……….and always being there for me as my date coach too……my issues seem to dissolve in no time ……..maybe they weren’t issues anyway, but you restore balance, thank you!

…..and for you…I hope you get lots and lots of presents and hugs for being the nicest cupid around and for tirelessly working so hard doing such a difficult job…..you are one rocking matchmaker…….. I am sure it is appreciated by all… 0r at least most.. well done……….you beat the blues on singles dating for us all and make it fun, even though the matter of finding a soul mate is daunting………even for a handsome guy like me!!  LOL!

Kind regards

your buddy …….and very happy VIP member!

CM
Managing Director

Fabulous Dates - Dating Tip - How to Exit with Grace

Thanks so much for being so gracious with me precious Shannon. I cannot thank you enough for your constant dating advice and hands-on date coaching.

I have met some truly wonderful guys, just a pity we seem to only be “friend material” so on we march as you say!  You are rocking matchmakers always!  I don’t know where you find these great bachelors!

As we all know it’s a particularly crazy time of year & I don’t expect anything ‘new’ to happen- I just remember you telling me that AD has a round bottom & rolls away easily, but bounces back, hahaha, you really can make me laugh VERY loud all by myself.  Somehow though, he honours his commitments and is a man of his word. I did like him the most so far!  Your match making skills were spot on, even if you cannot make magic happen!

I’ll think about your suggestion to maybe drop in with a ‘hi’………!

I’m not in the least bit peeved about BH making up his mind the following day after our first meeting to commit to a lady he had been seeing, I’m just really sad for him that it didn’t work out. I do indeed understand he owes me no explanations, I would be an unreasonable silly billy if that was my expectation, but I am flattered he would like to rekindle and go on more dates. I also realize there will be times when one is simply someone else’s ‘litmus test’ and I think it best to move on.

I expect everyone I meet to be seeing other people anyway……as you say so often, love finds us when it is our time!

Even if that weren’t the case, I didn’t really feel at the time that I liked him enough to meet again, I feel horrible saying it, but I still feel the same, there’s something that doesn’t gel.

Now I just have to find a kind way to tell him. How do I exit with grace in a kind way without hurting his feelings?

I feel I should do that before he calls again.

I am enjoying getting to know TP and hoping MQ calls again soon, maybe my love match will happen soon!

Thinking of you & your wonderful team with everything on your plates to wrap up this year

Plenty lotsa love & virtue!

xxx

Kind Regards

 

Response from Shannon

Thanks for the great feedback dear HW, indeed AD is a fabulous guy and we hope he does call again! He is a man of his word ….at worst he may just call and “gaslight”………even if it is next year or next decade, hahaha, we never know when he is free! He does try hard …….ten out of ten!

Your decision not see BH is acceptable, although there may have been much potential, and thank you for the excellent and positive feedback on your brief dating experiences and your compliments on all being good matches, we move on with our seeking and selected dates – your love match will happen as long as we keep up momentum.

The code words for “I do not think we are suited” are:  “Thanks so much for the meet/contact and sadly I just am not available at present, so wish you the very best in your search, some lady will be very lucky when love finds you ……….the last bit clearly says “I’m outta here, ‘bye!”……LOL!

I do think you will enjoy TP …..and I am not sure where MQ is but he apologised today…..he owns a factory and madly meeting order deadlines before they close …..so he may make an appearance…….this time of year is a bit like a lucky packet……..so we just stay prepared…..(-:

Fact is, all these most eligible bachelors have been most impressed with your warm nature, great sense of humour and integrity, style and integrity, and they rate you as a most eligible date too – all we need is that magic to happen!

Hugs, more hugs and always in love and light!!

Fond Regards
Shannon

Simplistic idea on time and life’s journey

Hi dearest Shannon,

Thanks so much for your simplistic idea on time and life’s journey, it is a beautiful way of looking at life, so true, every moment in time is taking us to some final destination (because we all have one, one day), and being stuck in one spot brings no joy or fulfilment, it is done with and needs to be boxed!! So I am very happy to meet with GE, and I have finally moved on from SJ, I really needed this nudge to get on with life and meet the awesome bachelors you have been introducing to me….here I go with renewed energy!  

I want to thank you again for being really expert date coaches and professional matchmakers for our corporate dating world, in my 7 months with you I have learnt so much, see dating, love and relationships through new eyes, and am very empowered now to make better – and lasting – decisions!

All the date tips helped prepare me, and your “in the moment” coaching is better than getting a PhD in dating, if there was a place to even get this! LOL!

My fondest wishes to you all, and keep up the good work – you are the best dating site ever!

Fond Regards
Miriam

Response from Shannon

Awesome angel, you rock as always!!  Proud of you!!  It is so necessary to keep with the flow  and the rhythm of life…..and so easy to stagnate, we get into a bit of a comfort zone and it just so less hassle, but there is plenty time to do that one day when we arrive at our destination, even if it is a pit stop …….life is full of gifts!!

I have a very wise mentor/guru and he asked me a while back “where do you see yourself down the line?”…….”down the line” was quite descriptive because time and the future is relative and infinite…..I said my life is this train and it is headed to the end of the journey as surely every journey has an end, sure as nuts, when or where is to be revealed one day, in the meantime, the train stops at little stations along the way and I get off and explore, and once ready, it is hop back on the train to the next stop down the line…..and every stop is the “now” that I revel in, enjoy, “feel” and just appreciate ……….better even for the next stop!  One day you find the “stop” which you do not want to leave, just yet, and only time will tell when …….until life forces you back on the train ……J  (not exactly rocket science, hee hee, but that is how I see it!  Momentum never stops!). And then we keep in mind, there is a terminus and it all ends, so never waste a moment.

In quantum physics the past is but a record of events, when we bring back the past, we bring it into the present in that present moment which is the “now” again (good and bad, and then box it back in the past where it belongs as it has served its purpose and is gone), the future is but a plan that has no guarantees, so all we have is the reality of the present!!

Great then on SJ …….he too is so wrapped in his journey….maybe he will get off his juggernaut and also stop to appreciate the “now”, with some encouragement! J

Brilliant on GE …….believe it, if successful, the rewards are beyond imagination!  If not, our train moves on angel!!

Have the most awesome day, and BIG HUGS!!

Lotsa love and light until next time!

Fond Regards

Shannon

 

MK and I have decided to just be friends

Good Morning lovely Shannon and the Perfect Partner Team…

Gosh it’s been quite a few weeks… I hope you are all soooo well!!

Just to keep you updated – MK and I have decided to just be friends … he was an amazing friend but ultimately we were not quite ready to go to the next level – we think we will be better friends …….I am also seeing KJ on occasion, and dear JS is still a valued friend….all of them keepers, but I believe I may be the one who is not entirely ready yet, still learning, so keep the newsletters coming. 

Shannon – I just think I need to tell you how wise you are in all the weekly mails you send to us … I continue to refer back and reread and nod my head … You are indeed an expert match maker, profiler and date coach!!! Sometimes the subject is something I am dealing with in the moment, sometimes it is like a warning, and it alerts me to being more cautious, also taking your advice on keeping an open mind. Some things I only see in hindsight and then I realize you had foreseen such a situation and already given ideas and direction ( hope that makes sense)……you are very intuitive and often it feels like you talking directly to ME! (Glad others are obviously in the same boat though!)

You also have quite a wicked sense of humour and I cannot believe people may think you are anything but kind, amusing and trying to make our mission to date easier, by laughing at ourselves too sometimes! I ALWAYS have a giggle!

I have learnt about my “boundaries” and have learnt to understand men are also vulnerable and even if clumsy, even better, they are the genuine ones, not practiced players with smooth moves! LOL!

I love being part of your singles dating community – you are the best!! You are our soldiers of love and this is a campaign that has to be done with awareness as many pitfalls exist, but so do many rewards outnumber them.

Hope you all have a truly beautiful day ….

Mary-Anne

Response from Shannon

Thanks dear lovely Mary-Anne,

We truly appreciate your encouragement on our weekly newsletters – few people understand how much research and care goes into them, and often the subject is what is trending any one week in the singles dating world! We also collaborate with dating experts around the world, on dating tips, date coaching, relationships, singles dating everywhere, whether men seeking women, or women seeking men.

All we can say, there are those that believe they know enough (or everything, after all, they have had many relationships – really? Why is that then?), until they come short, and following the personality type, it is never their fault! LOL!

Many think it is patronising to state the obvious, as our people are very worldly and wise, but the subject of finding love is truly corny and cheesy, yet actually very simple when agendas are out the way, illusions addressed as fantasy, and worse, assumptions make an ASS.of.U.and.ME! these very smart folk tend to complicate it and make it complex for themselves……K.I.S.S.!!

And it does sadden me that some cannot “get” my humour (why would it be seen as “sarcastic”? It is life! Life is funny!)…….I do try to make light of a serious dating experience, and humour is still the best medicine! Anyway, hundreds+ and more do share their giggles back, so appreciated!

A hands-on match maker and date coach is vital, no singles can date without some game plan.

We expect that our members, all being educated, can easily read a 10 minute article, but many do not!  We commend you on your astute ability to pick up that even some subjects are “predictions” of what can happen, and how to spot the red flags and avoid!  In fact a 10 minute read can mean a lifetime of love, joy and happiness when well prepared……….so worth the read!

Always with big hugs, and so much love and light ……

xxxxx

Fond Regards

Shannon

Beautiful and Heartfelt Words

Dearest Shannon …

Thank u so much for such beautiful and heartfelt words …….you guys are always there for me when I need you (although not needy or invasive) and I have learnt to be choosy and value and CARE about ME! Even when I needed to change things, I saw the truth, and as you say, “truth sets you free” so I have learnt to banish old blueprints…..and self-limiting doubts. And I am LOVING the new me! 

Thank u for such encouraging words about moving forward … cause u know well I’m very hard on myself … but I have learnt to open myself to change, which has been exactly what was needed. I could not have better guides than you guys, as it is “real time” and not learnt on dating courses or read in books, it is MY experience and on the spot, you are not only expert matchmakers, you really now the single dynamic and are very wise.

I really would like to refresh my profile – I have learnt much and know more of who I am ….. and new dating tips very welcome!
Please invoice me … and I would be very grateful for a ‘ coaching session ‘ …

Veronica is a fabulous date coach, an encouraging, insightful and wonderful lady who just aims for one to see the value in themselves …

Shannon…. thank u!! I can so easily slip into ‘ what’s wrong with me ‘ but I think I’m beginning to learn and more importantly believe that I’m ok … and I think this is largely due to you and your team and all the advice you give both personally and weekly ……..and your newsletters always hit a cord just when I need it, even if I look back in hindsight.

My hopes and dreams is to one day find that forever person ……

Goodnight and love and light back x

Suzanne

Response from Shannon

Ahhhh my angel (and you are an angel!) that is so kind and so appreciated …….and we will NEVER let you go near thinking “what is wrong with me” …..you are merely human……..do not believe for a moment I and Inge, and even Alma (luckily still much younger) have not had to learn our lessons!!  EXACTLY why we want, with all our hearts, to help our sistahood, our lovely ladies, to get this right! There is no gain without pain ….and the first step to healing is realising we must accept our mistakes, own them, and learn from them ……so many times we have said it is insanity to keep doing the same things and getting the same results, LOL!

There are those that do not get it that we care deeply (how can we not care?) and may think us condescending or patronising, and it is clear to us they have never known any real kindness in their lives and do not know it when they see it, which boils down to “victim mentality” as they are on guard always expecting to be shredded or bullied, it is terribly sad!  Kindness also has to come with truth, and humour is vital, so we thank YOU for boosting our confidence in our effort to make a difference – no wonder you have had a really strong “fan club” out there with our awesome guys, we are proud of you!  Now to find The One, and off we go…..your new term has started!

We look forward to welcoming you back again, although you never left ….but renewed energy and a fresh start, and indeed, you and I having a heart-to-heart ….because I have visions for you!! I am excited to share! have attached the invoice as requested …..and standing by!

Always with big hugs, and so much love and light ……

xxxxx

Fond Regards

Shannon

WHAT WOULD WE DO WITHOUT YOU

Thank you for your assistance and I have been super blessed in finding and meeting a most wonderful Lady and I believe we are very suitably matched and will find out in time if we are comparable to the point of marrying. Thank you for your most professional match making service, you really are the best match makers ever, and I am not surprised the top best dating site, and thank goodness not like any online site where I am just a number, or worse! 

Your confidentiality policy and discreet personal introductions were perfectly executed.

Your dating tips and date coach strategies are perfect too, not intrusive or invasive, just common sense and doable, and you make it so much easier to get going when starting over.

I am sure you get this all the time in your line of business so I trust it comes as no surprise to you.

I wish you and your company all the successes in the future and truly believe that finding the correct partner for people out there is a very positive contribution to our modern day society that brings good people together, and there is no doubt you care and have a gift as well as real people skills, understanding us single men. I must commend you on the high calibre of your ladies, I nearly did not believe there were “real women” left in the world who love a man like me! I just wanted someone real, down to earth, in good health with a happy and warm nature, and I was pleasantly surprised as I got all that and more, plus a beautiful one at that!

I commend you on your professional approach and platform on which you operate.

All the best for the future.

Kind regards.

GB

CEO, GROUP CHAIRMAN XXXX

THE BEST DATING SITE AND REAL MATCH MAKERS, not online but truly personal!

Thank you for your assistance and I have been super blessed in finding and meeting a most wonderful Lady and I believe we are very suitably matched and will find out in time if we are comparable to the point of marrying. Thank you for your most professional match making service, you really are the best match makers ever, and I am not surprised the top best dating site, and thank goodness not like any online site where I am just a number, or worse! 

Your confidentiality policy and discreet personal introductions were perfectly executed.

Your dating tips and date coach strategies are perfect too, not intrusive or invasive, just common sense and doable, and you make it so much easier to get going when starting over.

I am sure you get this all the time in your line of business so I trust it comes as no surprise to you.

I wish you and your company all the successes in the future and truly believe that finding the correct partner for people out there is a very positive contribution to our modern day society that brings good people together, and there is no doubt you care and have a gift as well as real people skills, understanding us single men. I must commend you on the high calibre of your ladies, I nearly did not believe there were “real women” left in the world who love a man like me! I just wanted someone real, down to earth, in good health with a happy and warm nature, and I was pleasantly surprised as I got all that and more, plus a beautiful one at that!

I commend you on your professional approach and platform on which you operate.

All the best for the future.

Kind regards.
GB
CEO, GROUP CHAIRMAN XXXX