Testimonial – Succeed At Love
A fairy tale come true!!
Hi Shannon and Inge
You don’t need to send me any more profiles at this stage because I believe I have found my perfect partner yes I got frustrated many times and was close to giving up and stop looking for a partner.However you send me the profile of a lady I though only exists in fairy tales, I contacted her, I met with her and life has a new meaning. I laughed when my daughter watched these fairy tales, where a lady meets her prince in shining Armour, well thanks to you I found a princess. Your professional matchmaking is superb and thanks for all the continuous care and patience, even when I was despondent!
Have a wonderful Christmas and a happy new year.
Regards and love and light back to you guys!
Ahhhh, that is so wonderful of you to email us this good news dear JH, and also lovely chatting ……..indeed, fairy tales do come true even if they take their own time!! It happens when the time is right because the universe KNOWS when your heart is free and open ……and usually, this is when you are gatvol and stop trying too hard, it then happens when the energy is clear!
We wish you and LB a fabulous festive season, and please keep in touch, we will miss you, but are thinking about you.
Always in love and light until next time, and blessings for an incredible 2018!
And this thing called love and lust!!
Hi Shannon and Inge, how are my favourite matchmakers and gurus doing today!
I met with Jean. She really is a lovely person and I am spinning a little, just a little! Hoping for more. I can definitely see how she would be a valuable life partner. I also really enjoy her feminine energy.
I am however on the fence on whether I am attracted to her as a final and last “for ever” partner. I am scared to move forward but have the hope that the attraction will grow.
In the past I dated a very cool girl who I felt similar about. We were together for almost three years. I kept hoping the attraction will come. In the end, I realised that attraction cannot really grow. If anything, it gets rather bleak and you feel bad about exiting, but your professional matching advice has been beyond helpful and saved me from wasting my time again – no more struggling for three years hoping!
It has to be there from the start. I felt guilty then, and I feel a bit guilty now. I mean these are awesome girls, why can’t I just find them attractive? I mean like really, “I want to ravish you” attractive. Is it me or them? I’ve had two relationships where I felt that I couldn’t keep my hands off the girl – which I really enjoyed………..but they quickly burnt out…..was it because there was no glue, no bond yet?
I have met some of the loveliest ladies in the country through you and know I am very eligible too (I try hard), but some days I feel so dead, like love just won’t come! I do not just want the physical – I would be very cynical and even turn hard-ass if it were not for your amazing care and encouragement! You are surely the best matchmakers in the world! I always look forward to new introductions …and learning to understand the meaning of love.
I’m going to propose to Jean that we continue as friends as I feel we have a lot in common and could share some good times together, and maybe that deep fire burning will explode into a volcano.
What do you think?
Thanks dear Stan ……we understand your dilemma entirely!! “I want to ravish you”, hee hee, is that confusion around lust!! Fact is according to human history (see last two newsletters, we covered this exact syndrome), lasting love does start with attraction with an element of sexual interest …..in friendship first…..and GROWS from there…playing the waiting game is very erotic and pays off big time…….sexual tension grows with flirting and imagining that ONE DAY when you get to the ravishing!! Never suppress your feelings, and always act with a conscious awareness of results …….if it is a fling, so be it, but let the sexual tension build along with your new friendship……..and see where it goes!
We cannot express our gratitude enough that you are working with us – always a very fine guy and on top of your game, getting better at it every day! It is a huge asset to us to have such an eligible, good looking and smart guy to work with and for, as you are always a great hit! Many of our lovely ladies are disappointed they were not The One to be ravished! LOL!! but the day will come …….hang in there!
And yes, we do believe our professional matchmaking and date ready advice helps! We have saved you countless futile hours, hunting in dangerous waters and exposing yourself to unsuitable others, money on dates and precious energy by picking out your kinda ladies where there is always potential…….we believe we have the recipe right now, it is just a matter of chemistry happening!
Simply put, you may not be ready for a “for ever relationship” and still need to have some casual fun! LOL!
Maybe avoid over-thinking or being intense, let it grow as it will!! Love will find you!!
Beautiful and Heartfelt Words
Dearest Shannon …
Thank u so much for such beautiful and heartfelt words …….you guys are always there for me when I need you (although not needy or invasive) and I have learnt to be choosy and value and CARE about ME! Even when I needed to change things, I saw the truth, and as you say, “truth sets you free” so I have learnt to banish old blueprints…..and self-limiting doubts. And I am LOVING the new me!
Thank u for such encouraging words about moving forward … cause u know well I’m very hard on myself … but I have learnt to open myself to change, which has been exactly what was needed. I could not have better guides than you guys, as it is “real time” and not learnt on dating courses or read in books, it is MY experience and on the spot, you are not only expert matchmakers, you really now the single dynamic and are very wise.
I really would like to refresh my profile – I have learnt much and know more of who I am ….. and new dating tips very welcome!
Please invoice me … and I would be very grateful for a ‘ coaching session ‘ …
Veronica is a fabulous date coach, an encouraging, insightful and wonderful lady who just aims for one to see the value in themselves …
Shannon…. thank u!! I can so easily slip into ‘ what’s wrong with me ‘ but I think I’m beginning to learn and more importantly believe that I’m ok … and I think this is largely due to you and your team and all the advice you give both personally and weekly ……..and your newsletters always hit a cord just when I need it, even if I look back in hindsight.
My hopes and dreams is to one day find that forever person ……
Goodnight and love and light back x
Sent: 17 May 2018 08:31 PM
Subject: Suzanne : we are excited too, happy to renew contract…..let’s not skip a beat! (Send her profile on to her)
Ahhhh my angel (and you are an angel!) that is so kind and so appreciated …….and we will NEVER let you go near thinking “what is wrong with me” …..you are merely human……..do not believe for a moment I and Inge, and even Alma (luckily still much younger) have not had to learn our lessons!! EXACTLY why we want, with all our hearts, to help our sistahood, our lovely ladies, to get this right! There is no gain without pain ….and the first step to healing is realising we must accept our mistakes, own them, and learn from them ……so many times we have said it is insanity to keep doing the same things and getting the same results, LOL!
There are those that do not get it that we care deeply (how can we not care?) and may think us condescending or patronising, and it is clear to us they have never known any real kindness in their lives and do not know it when they see it, which boils down to “victim mentality” as they are on guard always expecting to be shredded or bullied, it is terribly sad! Kindness also has to come with truth, and humour is vital, so we thank YOU for boosting our confidence in our effort to make a difference – no wonder you have had a really strong “fan club” out there with our awesome guys, we are proud of you! Now to find The One, and off we go…..your new term has started!
We look forward to welcoming you back again, although you never left ….but renewed energy and a fresh start, and indeed, you and I having a heart-to-heart ….because I have visions for you!! I am excited to share! have attached the invoice as requested …..and standing by!
Always with big hugs, and so much love and light ……
Finding my soul mate - Relationship Coaching - this is all positive angel, merely an exercise!
Oh my word, this is much tougher that I imagined it to be. I am horrified that dear MIKE misread my retorts, but can see exactly why – how wrong of me!Dating is a campaign – not just like a silly dating site where there is no professional matchmaker to guide us! Maybe I have picked up bad “dating patterns” on singles social media too and am not “date ready” as I now realise.
Yes that was part of our conversation and yes I do see that if he is sensitive that he may have thought I was judging him and putting him in some kind of box. The really silly thing is that for me it was confirming a positive trait which I am certainly looking for in a man because my life has not been a stable one. He is EXACTLY what I seek, a stable and secure man, because this pattern also means he would not change his ladies like he does his socks!
Gosh!! I would have loved to share his flying passion and maybe he would have tried a ride with me on my Harley before I sold it! I wish I had not blown my chances so quickly! I definitely need to learn the secrets of the dating game!
The fact that he has managed to be so stable is wonderful, it is an
attractive quality not a negative one at all! He did not respond by asking me about my life and that would have opened the conversation for me to say how different my experience has been..
I will definitely keep the conversations shorter in the future 🙂
I will also take note of my responses in future… so much to think about in that first encounter! He actually did really well with not asking me any personal questions. Please pass on my apologies if you see fit, he really did interpret my comments incorrectly. He can be proud of his stability, it is not an easy accomplishment!
So, I hear you and will reflect and take heed.
Thank you for taking so much time to explain and put my thoughts to rest and provide me with guidance. I really appreciate your professional matchmaking and guidance!
Have a lovely weekend and hopefully each encounter will get easier.
Thanks dear Mike – it has been a hectic morning, phones never stop ringing!! Herewith some advice from your date coach to assist you be more date ready next time, maybe you can slow down a bit and get a better game plan together, with our help?
I have attached June’s email hereunder explaining that she completely misread you and misunderstood your dating style on the first call!
In the email from June, and as you can see, she is quite devastated that she was misread in turn when jumping to conclusions on why you never pursued, thinking she was judgemental, but in fact, can see you had little choice because that is how her retort came across (no hard feelings on her side )- which can happen!!
AND, she is also aware now that a first call is not a “show and tell” and must never be personal as it so turned out (that is why we are here, to give you “first callers” just enough to intrigue two parties, and then IF they like each enough to meet, and still like each enough to go on the first real date after the initial rendezvous (not a date yet!), all will be revealed as they progress, according to their own comfort zones)…..and also, face to face where they can read body language ……calls can be so misleading!
June has learnt a valuable lesson and that is why members need to heed our advice firstly!! She has received very much the same responses from us on coaching as you did, on this “experience” as you both needed to see this as a real life exercise on how things can be improved next time, and I believe she also values and understands why you did NOT third degree her on that first call ALTHOUGH SHE EXPECTED A LONG LIFE STORY FROM YOU………wow, was she sitting ready to do that dreaded “show and tell” after all, to a stranger! We have helped her to forget that dating style for sure!
Her other lessons are never be too sensitive until “evidence” proves a fact, keep an open mind, avoid making assumptions and never presume others are judging you! To always remain objective, and never be subjective as this instantly reveals one’s fears and insecurities and is of no importance until way down the line……and of course, to think before she makes statements!
I have assured her I have conveyed her deepest apologies to you…….and I think now you both can debate further with your coaches on the next steps, and on we march to the next……we all happy good came of it, just sad it did not get to first base, but such is life…….
I think that you are placed into peoples lives for a reason
My dear Shannon, I think that you are placed into peoples lives for a reason. Sometimes I wonder how I got so lucky and what I have done to deserve a friend like you. People have come and gone out of my life, but for some reason you never left.Your friendship is one of the greatest gifts I have ever received. You always have time, you always care.
I could write a book about the positive affect you have had on my life. Your heart is of the purest that I have ever known and I felt your spirit the second I met you. Your energy and smile radiates and love and compassion that you show for others is special. I am so grateful to be affected and influenced by you. I hope that one day I can be half of the person that you are.
You believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. You loved me when I was hard to love. You listened to me when I didn’t have a voice and let me cry when I was broken. But most importantly, you never give up on me. That is special.
You know me to my core. You know what makes me smile and what ticks me off. You can tell in an instant when I am upset and then continue to do everything in your power to make me feel better. If I am going through something, you are the first person to text me to make sure I am okay. When my confidence lags, you reassure me of myself. I have never had a bad moment with you.
You fill my life with an immense amount of happiness and love. I know that wherever life takes us, you will be part of my life. If we don’t talk for some time, we pick up right where we left off. Whenever I need you, I know you will always be there.
You are the epitome of a beautiful human being. I hope that every person in this world has someone like you in their lives. Shannon, you are the best!
Just sharing from a fabulous guy's honest heart
Thanks for all the attention that you guys give me. I genuinely appreciate it. You are the most rocking professional matchmakers with a genuine passion and I feel I can share my thoughts with you.
XXXXXX is a beautiful woman and highly educated and competent but I am not picking up on her “heart” vibration. I am however not going to go forward with her, as awesome as she appears to be. I find it difficult to verbalize the mechanics of my decision, but I’ll apply some effort:
When a girl describes herself as a “strong independent woman who is climbing the corporate ladder” and is ambition and goal driven, I am very happy for her, and wish her the best. It seems like they seek approval according to norms set by everyone out there, always some else’s blueprint, where is the individuality and need for Self, because the divine feminine is so powerful. Why does it feel like women want to compete with men …..…(be men?)……they win hands down anyway. We like women with opinions and confidence to be who they wish to be….if they know who they are, women.
But I also move on to keep searching. I don’t know, its just that these woman tend to associate with the feminist culture. Women of strong character, who are resourceful and have good work ethic are fantastic, just those women rarely choose to describe themselves as “driven and independent”……why do some need to do this? Just do what you do.
Just as great leaders rarely describe themselves as such because real leaders just do it, without needing praise. Ego gets in the way of the most simple thing – genuine love between a man and a woman. There is an element of insecurity here, a loss of “identification” with their gender role. Is there a maternal instinct even? Being a loving mother one day, or CEO of a corporate? Us men want to be a lady’s hero ……but we seem to be no longer needed. We will always support everything she does and move heaven and earth and lift her up and we will share all life’s abundance and build together. It is not the dark ages.
Ultimately, I am looking for a ‘huweliksmaat”. Someone to start a family with. A truly feminine lady who knows she is all woman. Given the age gap here, differing views on religion with all the dogma (no room to explore real issues, “my way or the highway”) and outlook of masculine/feminine roles I do not think that XXXXXX and I will do each other any good.
I also wanted to mention that I am not opposed to an English speaking girl. I view life with vision and think deeply and only live by strong moral standards and integrity. I have boundaries but not judgemental as people should grow and transform for the better. The good, the bad and the ugly, we take it in our stride. Of how I make sense of the world. Although I understand that no two people will ever be 100% aligned in how they view life, we need not be clones of each other, I would like to share my all, my everything, with my girlfriend/wife….one day!
Have a wonderful evening.
Larry and Liz - a fabulous new passionate relationship!!
Hi to my awesome matchmakers:
You asked me for feedback in terms of lovely Liz: Please see below. It finally happened! I didn’t know what hit me!
I met Liz on Friday last week, and to be completely honest, not a doubt, we got on like a house on fire! We both like each other is a really cool and crazy way.
I am so lucky to be here, and to have eventually met the woman of my dreams, my heart’s desire – I thought it would never happen, but you were right, persistence pays off!
Honestly, I have been around the world and know what awesome matchmakers you are, your dedication goes beyond just service – you are right as professional matchmakers when you say this a science and an art! I would hate your “job” …….I am so fussy I would hate to even try to date me! LOL!
Finally, it was a perfect match in every way. Emotionally, physically, everything. We just matched…….I am dazed!! Like we have known each other a life time. I never thought I could find love again at 49! Been around the globe and met the best eligible bachelorettes in the world, and here you have my perfect match!
Thanks for all your gentle care and patience, you guys are special, and even forgave me when I moaned!! You never let me lose hope …… I still live with the memory of many lonely nights and dark hours, wondering where my love was! Casual sex just did not do it for me anymore, as you say, no quick fixes! I never want to go there again, I have something more precious than any treasures.
Was it luck or science? We will never know …maybe both! I can’t stop wondering ………J
Larry and Liz
Hi dear Larry,
We are thrilled you and Liz hit off immediately!! That is what it is all about!! It was your time! Yes, we know people wait anxiously and fret over how long it can take sometimes, but that is the way it happens! Fact is, the more movement and activity you keep up, the sooner it will happen ….and the more ladies you agree to meet, ONE of them is bound to attract you, even if you were not sure when looking at the profile – only way is to MEET!
We have NEVER promised a perfect match on the push of a button! We guarantee introductions to potentially perfect matches …we are only agents of upmarket singles introductions to compatible others (see our website and all our stuff)…..but then you need to do your bit ad go out and meet, because you never know (what you do know is you have great potential, and need to tap into it) with nothing to lose!! You need to meet the ladies …and they should meet you…you each have your role in the outcomes…..and it helps to read our advice on how the fine-tuned strategy works……J
It is no chance you met Liz, LOL!! …..you would never have known the other even existed, we introduced you, thank goodness you agreed to meet and love found you!! Incredible energy exploded in a marvellous, wonderful way ….because you were right for each other, and were the right people because we matched you, the time was right …..and the energy was right …..because we had found a perfect match for both of you….even if you had nearly given up.
But yes …love strikes us all by chance …..it comes out the blue when least expected, that is why we say keep looking, keep meeting others!! It does happen!! We have the finest “others” and not to be sniffed at! Then we go from being dogs to being heroes! Only 1 in 100 first dates for a totally new member is a first meet success story…it takes as long as it takes, often because people are not doing it right.
We send all our good wishes for a wonderful new start in your life and a bright future together!
MK and I have decided to just be friends
Good Morning lovely Shannon and the Perfect Partner Team…
Gosh it’s been quite a few weeks… I hope you are all soooo well!!
Just to keep you updated – MK and I have decided to just be friends … he was an amazing friend but ultimately we were not quite ready to go to the next level – we think we will be better friends …….I am also seeing KJ on occasion, and dear JS is still a valued friend….all of them keepers, but I believe I may be the one who is not entirely ready yet, still learning, so keep the newsletters coming.
Shannon – I just think I need to tell you how wise you are in all the weekly mails you send to us … I continue to refer back and reread and nod my head … You are indeed an expert match maker, profiler and date coach!!! Sometimes the subject is something I am dealing with in the moment, sometimes it is like a warning, and it alerts me to being more cautious, also taking your advice on keeping an open mind. Some things I only see in hindsight and then I realize you had foreseen such a situation and already given ideas and direction ( hope that makes sense)……you are very intuitive and often it feels like you talking directly to ME! (Glad others are obviously in the same boat though!)
You also have quite a wicked sense of humour and I cannot believe people may think you are anything but kind, amusing and trying to make our mission to date easier, by laughing at ourselves too sometimes! I ALWAYS have a giggle!
I have learnt about my “boundaries” and have learnt to understand men are also vulnerable and even if clumsy, even better, they are the genuine ones, not practiced players with smooth moves! LOL!
I love being part of your singles dating community – you are the best!! You are our soldiers of love and this is a campaign that has to be done with awareness as many pitfalls exist, but so do many rewards outnumber them.
Hope you all have a truly beautiful day ….
Sent: 7 June 2018 08:31 PM
Subject: JUST SAYING I LOVE YOUR NEWSLETTERS (Everyone should read, pearls of wisdom!)
Thanks dear lovely Mary-Anne,
We truly appreciate your encouragement on our weekly newsletters – few people understand how much research and care goes into them, and often the subject is what is trending any one week in the singles dating world! We also collaborate with dating experts around the world, on dating tips, date coaching, relationships, singles dating everywhere, whether men seeking women, or women seeking men.
All we can say, there are those that believe they know enough (or everything, after all, they have had many relationships – really? Why is that then?), until they come short, and following the personality type, it is never their fault! LOL!
Many think it is patronising to state the obvious, as our people are very worldly and wise, but the subject of finding love is truly corny and cheesy, yet actually very simple when agendas are out the way, illusions addressed as fantasy, and worse, assumptions make an ASS.of.U.and.ME! these very smart folk tend to complicate it and make it complex for themselves……K.I.S.S.!!
And it does sadden me that some cannot “get” my humour (why would it be seen as “sarcastic”? It is life! Life is funny!)…….I do try to make light of a serious dating experience, and humour is still the best medicine! Anyway, hundreds+ and more do share their giggles back, so appreciated!
A hands-on match maker and date coach is vital, no singles can date without some game plan.
We expect that our members, all being educated, can easily read a 10 minute article, but many do not! We commend you on your astute ability to pick up that even some subjects are “predictions” of what can happen, and how to spot the red flags and avoid! In fact a 10 minute read can mean a lifetime of love, joy and happiness when well prepared……….so worth the read!
Always with big hugs, and so much love and light ……
PROFESSIONAL MATCHMAKING IS A JOURNEY OF DISCOVERY
I truly value the feedback and I realise now what you mean by seeking a perfect partner is not a random thing, it needs a plan. Being new on this platform makes for unchartered waters regarding photos, profiles etc. and having feedback is probably the best tool together with communication to better explore the opportunities that you and the team create for me, and to grow into that which I wish to be to attractthat what I wish to find, LOL!. You guys are unbelievably accurate as professional matchmakers given that every individual is unique – you do get it right!
I am happy to read Craig’s feedback and agree that I might come across as conservative in the photos but do not see myself this why – possibly an old soul 😉 I truly respect that he does not feel chemistry and this is not something that anyone can do anything about. I do, however, agree with the lady Doctor that meeting a person is the only way one really gets a sense of someone’s being. I will keep in mind about adjusting my profile (Still early days) and I will value any further input from you and your team. Your professional way of personal intros is so comfortable as you do all the hard work for me! I am having fun though meeting stunning guys – where on earth do you find them?
Thank you for your honesty and help.
Awwwww! That is so wise and very understanding of you dear Sannet, you have a deep soul (even if an ‘old soul’) …..while exploring these opportunities we soon find out what in general will WORK!! That is the only way any problems ever are resolved! Finding out why something does not work, then having a game plan! It is such a mystery, this thing of attraction …..science and psychologists say we are imprinted from childhood, even on “looks”….so we ask everyone to never take it personally if someone chooses not to meet (they have not stood you up at the wedding ceremony, hee hee!), it is the lack of perception rather, in the other person not to look beyond a very basic profile and pics …and see what a gift it is to learn more about those people who may never have crossed your path in a million years …..then automatically knowledge and insight informs.
Since we have spoken intimately to thousands of single (and even unhappily married men exploring future avenues) men on their “needs” we know how sensitive and delicate their confidence is as being “attracted” directly effects their libido! To find out their attraction is trigger, is a huge challenge but actually very simple – it is simplicity itself and we know the secrets! It is what emotions we as humans all evoke in each other, and no telling until you meet! After all, we are all seeking THE ONE for you, and 71% of our members have been successful! Others are still meeting and finding ….
We do have to do an article again on the research by ourselves and matchmakers worldwide, on how easy it is to be attractive to guys, enough to get to a first date…..once there, to dazzle and impress and win their undying attention! As mentioned, us women look for good qualities and traits in men …..our need as the female species is to feel safe, approved and cherished, not a libido thing, and we empower you to hit the jackpot.
All good then angel …..we test the waters again next week!!
Simplistic idea on time and life’s journey
Hi dearest Shannon,
Thanks so much for your simplistic idea on time and life’s journey, it is a beautiful way of looking at life, so true, every moment in time is taking us to some final destination (because we all have one, one day), and being stuck in one spot brings no joy or fulfilment, it is done with and needs to be boxed!! So I am very happy to meet with GE, and I have finally moved on from SJ, I really needed this nudge to get on with life and meet the awesome bachelors you have been introducing to me….here I go with renewed energy!
I want to thank you again for being really expert date coaches and professional matchmakers for our corporate dating world, in my 7 months with you I have learnt so much, see dating, love and relationships through new eyes, and am very empowered now to make better – and lasting – decisions!
All the date tips helped prepare me, and your “in the moment” coaching is better than getting a PhD in dating, if there was a place to even get this! LOL!
My fondest wishes to you all, and keep up the good work – you are the best dating site ever!
Awesome angel, you rock as always!! Proud of you!! It is so necessary to keep with the flow and the rhythm of life…..and so easy to stagnate, we get into a bit of a comfort zone and it just so less hassle, but there is plenty time to do that one day when we arrive at our destination, even if it is a pit stop …….life is full of gifts!!
I have a very wise mentor/guru and he asked me a while back “where do you see yourself down the line?”…….”down the line” was quite descriptive because time and the future is relative and infinite…..I said my life is this train and it is headed to the end of the journey as surely every journey has an end, sure as nuts, when or where is to be revealed one day, in the meantime, the train stops at little stations along the way and I get off and explore, and once ready, it is hop back on the train to the next stop down the line…..and every stop is the “now” that I revel in, enjoy, “feel” and just appreciate ……….better even for the next stop! One day you find the “stop” which you do not want to leave, just yet, and only time will tell when …….until life forces you back on the train ……J (not exactly rocket science, hee hee, but that is how I see it! Momentum never stops!). And then we keep in mind, there is a terminus and it all ends, so never waste a moment.
In quantum physics the past is but a record of events, when we bring back the past, we bring it into the present in that present moment which is the “now” again (good and bad, and then box it back in the past where it belongs as it has served its purpose and is gone), the future is but a plan that has no guarantees, so all we have is the reality of the present!!
Great then on SJ …….he too is so wrapped in his journey….maybe he will get off his juggernaut and also stop to appreciate the “now”, with some encouragement! J
Brilliant on GE …….believe it, if successful, the rewards are beyond imagination! If not, our train moves on angel!!
Have the most awesome day, and BIG HUGS!!
Lotsa love and light until next time!