Testimonial – Succeed At Love
The Best Valentine Weekend Of My Life - Got My First Kiss Too
Good morning Shannon and Alma,
I am walking on Cloud 9!! Just an update that all is going really well with DB and me after 3 dates, and the whole weekend was a Valentine weekend, he is the most amazing guy I have ever met, thanks to my special caring dating agency and matchmaker. He brought me beautiful flowers for Valentine’s Day. We get on so well we met on Saturday and on Sunday.
Also got my first kiss from he is a real gentleman.
I can chat to him for hours on end and don’t want to leave his side. I know he is very smart, but somehow I keep up with him and also always eager to learn more as he is also wise and mature, and we never stop laughing – you were right – he has a wicked sense of humour blended with irony. I also know we need to take things slow. ……….and I know he is really honouring and respecting me!
I’ve never met a great person like him. We are going on a picnic date on Friday… that’s if my boss approves my request for a day’s leave.
There is just something about him that does not make me feel insecure around him. Like all the other intros I felt very insecure and not worldly enough. I know I have met a man who is patient and caring, my heart is safe, even if early days.
So looking forward to my long weekend yay!
Love to you all too, and thanks for the fairy dust and moonbeams,
The Worst Year In History Was Our Best Year Ever - Happily Married And Loving It!
Hi dearest Shannon and Team,
Indeed, the best news ever is we got married two weeks ago in a private ceremony as we could not outwait the pandemic (and lockdowns) any longer, and we are the happiest couple on the planet!! We wish we could have invited you to share the joy, but we will plan a simple beach ceremony when we can.
Dating during hard lockdown proved challenging but we were very creative and nothing was going to stop us once we found our love was truly growing daily – everything is possible and living in the NOW meant we did not forfeit Fate’s bounty by not trying when love comes knocking you have one chance. We had a ton of fun actually!
I personally enjoyed my journey to finding love again with you guys, every moment and very much! I learnt a lot and made some very awesome friends that will always be part of my life, as not one guy I met through your dating agency was ever ‘strange or flaky’ – I learnt new values and you guided me well to make the RIGHT choice, and the moment Deon and I met, I just knew it in my heart, and obviously, so did he! I have been adored, respected, felt safe and know we have something magical that will last a lifetime. And my love for him knows no boundaries, we fit together perfectly in that dance you call the ‘tango of love’ as we sway in harmony and already building a legacy.
Our message to others out there yearning for that special divine gift of lasting love – never give up, and always listen to your heart, never make choices you may regret, and get guidance if you need it! Personal intros are the safe and informal way to safely meet the right others, and that is half the battle, finding those you not only find visually attractive but also connect at a heart and mind level. And never throw away a great opportunity based on assumptions – you have to do the work and meet everyone, even if then not for you, you know the choice to not invest it the right choice, not negative or a failure (real failure is when you do not even try), as you saved yourself a lot of anguish later.
Please keep sending your CLUB NEWS as we always learn something, and a quick read is better than hours browsing, you always give really good advice!!
Much love to you all, our ‘virtual family’, and we will let you know when we do the beach thing!!
Mica and Deon
Your matching skills are legendary!
Hope you’re well and having a lovely weekend!
So… Alan and I have had an absolutely awesome 3 weeks together 🙂 There’s just something so special about our connection. And he makes me laugh till I cry! He’s heading back home tomorrow, and we’ve decided that we’d like to give this a chance exclusively, and see where it goes.
It has been a short, powerful and amazing journey with you so far and I was preparing for a longggggg ‘journey’ with you. My scepticism was due to totally poor experiences after trying upmarket online dating, other dating sites, Tinder and worse. Before I joined your dating agency, it was a waste of energy, never finding anyone even slightly remarkable or who made me want to explore, unless I under-valued myself, but I knew I was worthy of the right guy. Your matching skills are legendary! You were so right, love finds us if it is the RIGHT person and I am smitten, shaken and stirred in a way I never thought was possible!! What a fabulous guy!
Even our doggies get on well!!!
With that in mind, please could we hold off on matches for the time being?
Thank you, from the bottom of my happy heart 🙂
We’ll keep you posted, I’m sure……and yes, we make a great team!
PS. I have let Paul know that we won’t be moving forward romantically. I have no doubt you’ll find him an awesome match, he’s a really fabulous guy. There was also potential but it was not meant to be. Where do you find these awesome guys, LOL!
My Awesome Matchmaker Is A Genius – Certainly Not Just A Dating Site
Dear Shannon and Team,
I just want you to know that you guys have true genius in the world of dating for Singles like me, including your relationship guidance and date coaching. I cannot explain enough how my dating frustrations were driving me insane until I found your dating service. I thought a matchmaker was something from an old movie until I found your details and realised I could have a whole team of experts under one virtual roof looking after my most sensitive needs, my heart’s longing for someone to cherish.
I was truly going to give up and just quit all those dating sites and stay single forever. Then you changed everything in a few weeks. A dating agency is nothing like an online dating site where you are alone in your efforts! Not only that, your guidance and feedback helped me understand what ‘dating’ is really all about and to understand that circulating and being personally introduced to likeminded Singles was key to exploring what is out there in a safe environment.
I adjusted my mindset when it was clear nobody can ‘date’ somebody they pick off a website (like buying from a catalogue) and expect love to arrive as a gift wrapped item, until they have explored potential and actually found a spark of real attraction. Game on!! Dating games gone!
Thank you for introducing me to many awesome Singles, and now I have met my “forever after” I also have a great new circle of friends I can trust and enjoy, friends who are still seeking and practical that we cannot love everyone. We agreed to be friends and it is great.
Now I know that love is a divine gift when shared with that Significant Other, between two humans who thrive on love, and that friendship is also a divine gift with others I may never have met. It was a priceless experience meeting everyone even if not totally for me until I met The One!
Thank you for your relationship guidance and bringing lasting love to my heart.
I cannot believe how things have changed for me!
Dearest Shannon and Alma,
I cannot believe how things have changed for me in just 2 months! I have been introduced to really great guys and suddenly I am spinning off the walls! Even with the challenges of meeting during lockdown with COVID-19, love seems to have found us! I have not had one doubt or uncomfortable moment with you.
Thank you! I have absolutely no doubt that there will be chemistry now 🙂 RC really does seem to tick all my boxes, which is absolutely crazy!! And I feel very lucky that our paths have crossed! So thank you for connecting us. We would never have even known the other existed if it were not for your caring and warm service. I made the best investment of my life when joining you.
I am very excited to see where this goes as so far he is really putting in effort…….we have had to take it slow and I understand now why you say never rush it! The wait to meet was worth it and gave us time to really bond…and he has gone out of his way to make me feel very special and I have no doubt about his integrity as we find out more…… it’s part of the journey and it is so worth it.
Thanks again! And I am looking forward to what is still to come.
I am very pleased with progress, many thanks for changing my dating experience!
I hope this finds you well? I am very thrilled!! So far I have been contacted by 9 guys since I joined in May 2020, and still talking to 4……whether there is a spark yet (because of lockdown and not being able to really meet except on video call) we won’t know, and certainly, they are all very super and eligible. I have had no bad experiences and my confidence has grown daily – so I must thank you too for guiding and coaching me on “expanding my framework of reference” on what is out there!! My woes of the past are behind me and I see now I was being a “people pleaser” (or “guy pleaser”) and being played! Now I am using my ‘feminine power’ much better, thanks again!
It Is True When Your Matchmaker Says Hang In, Love Will Find You
Thank you for the introduction to CBD. I just wanted to tell you that after meeting him, I wish to ask you to not send me any further introductions.
Chris and I have had numerous dates within the last week and I am absolutely blown away. He is amazing!
You were absolutely correct. He is super intelligent, interesting, witty, adventurous, funny, kind, charming… Basically I could list every single adjective that you wrote in his profile about him because they are all true…….and more, a more warm and candid guy would be a rare find.
I will, however, list the ones that have really made the biggest impression on me. He is a man’s man, but an old school gentleman and always makes me feel like a lady! I have listened to some of his adventures and I can’t wait to hopefully explore that side of him further! He also has me in absolute stitches with the hilarious jokes he tells me, not silly but truly funny, and laughing at life. I really can’t do anything but smile when I’m in his company.
He is kind and considerate. He is very honest and does not shy away from any topic of conversation. His love for his pets really warms my heart, as I can’t imagine my life without pets.
The intelligent conversations we have to leave me blown away and finding myself at a loss of words (which is certainly not an easy task as I’m a regular Chatty Cathy). But we can chat about almost any topic, load shedding, coronavirus, traffic and the conversation can be both serious and he can find the humorous side of things at the same time.
He is definitely a unicorn. I cannot believe he has not to be snapped up already! But truly the other girls’ losses are my gain.
Although it’s still early days, I do not want to meet anyone else at this point and would rather focus on the connection I have with this amazing guy.
Hope you enjoy your weekend further.
Thank you again for this amazing introduction.
A Confident Bachelor Finally Understands Women!
Thanks for the input dear Shannon! I cannot begin to explain and thank you enough for all the guidance and fantastic coaching (and awesome intros to the loveliest ladies in SA!) I have received. I now understand why you say we all need a “frame of reference” on the dating game before we go out like bulls in a china shop!! I was the worst bull!! Despite being a scientist and doctor and a man of the world and good standing, and taking 20 years to understand life at a cellular level, I realise I knew little about the female of the species. My dating style at best was a bunch of flowers and, I hate to admit, trying to be a lady pleaser, which got me nowhere most of the time. Please see below what I have sussed out!
The ladies do have their insecurities and trust does not always come easy or quickly at all of course.
One must tread slowly and carefully every step of the way but must make sure you move enough and make the right moves at the right times. They like a confident and strong man who is not afraid.
A lesson I have learned is to be very honest and very communicative very early, talking a lot about steps, respects and the gradual process of getting to know. Know quickly what they require in the physical arena (hands and hugs or a bit of cuddling). With anything more…. if move not right or at all uninvited, they will retract into their ever-present shell quickly again. You can clearly feel with the sensitive ones all are of the opinion that men are just too physically demanding and inconsiderate – obviously from experience.
Communicate, communicate and explain how you feel, even own your insecurities and even laugh at yourself (this shows humility and absolute honesty). I am now starting a relationship with a wonderful lady, and she is the type who definitely appreciates this as she is sensitive and particular about expectations and clarity is great security and predictability for her. You caution always, and is so true “a lady must feel safe” and you sure ensure that!
Our two wavelengths are somehow so much better (well) matched thanks to your careful profiling……. one can just sense it at a first meet… and it provided so much confidence for a better chance of a good and happy match. I am treated like a MAN and not a wimp or a means to an end, and then, even more, I want to be more man!! I want to puff out my chest and I walk tall! I feel already I can take bullets for my new flame!
But one has to be alert and quick and so careful, with the sensitive ladies (who seem so strong and confident to the world and in their work) as insecurities cause things to be misinterpreted by them quickly and then their hurt sensors can trigger a mayor very damaging (in confidence and commitment) shutdown, maybe even immediately permanent shutdown. There are often not any second chances with insecure ladies. Please continue to teach your ladies to understand US TOO!!!
When Dating is Guaranteed to be Safe and Fun - So Risk It!
You are an encouragement and a rock star for sure. I looked at myself and how prejudiced I have been. I have really missed many golden opportunities and I now realise I should just relax and trust the processes because you guys cannot humanly give more than you do to give all us yearning singles dating out there every chance! What is there to fear?
The more I understand your date coaching, protocols and processes I realise I have maybe believed in some fairy tale……and maybe why I remain single and unfulfilled because I am fixated on a ghost …..my perfect match is not going to arrive on my doorstep, diamond ring in hand!!
Dating is hard work but fun and choosing a “forever partner” is not a frivolous matter! You are right, a stranger is only a stranger until you meet, and then reality can kick in if there is potential, and you have armed me well with excellent advice and authentic info on the guys to meet.
I must admit, your Team has sent me more awesome guys than I would ever meet, nor have actually met in ages, and I am sorry I have not been more proactive. I ask myself, what was I expecting? It is not like ordering a pizza with favourite toppings!! “I want this, I want that” ……..it is a journey of discovery and such a precious gift to be on your dating site and so well looked after! I am going to show my gratitude by being more courageous and open to making new “friends”…..we are all here to let love find us!
I guess the traditional person in me sometimes stands in the way. I do remind myself this is 2019! Nothing is the same as the old days with the old parameters when seriously seek your “forever after” . LOL!
Perhaps it’s good to have a chance to meet everyone after all, please keep up the steady flow, I am going to be more of a team player!
Response from Shannon
Your professional matchmaker has your back when seeking a partner!
Shannon has good advice and gives encouragement to Lebo who finally realised that prejudice was holding her back. Is it fear of the unknown?
Yes, it is so human to “stereotype” because we all only know what we know …until we “know” something else or something outside our comfort zones or thinking…….if Columbus believed his Queen that the world was flat and he would fall off the edge if he set sail for the unknown, we would still belong to the Flat Earth Society, LOL!
It is smart to explore the challenging, the unknown and even weird……..especially in a safe environment like this where we do everything we can to stick to “normal and safe”….hahahaha, so we too are victims too of “safe bubble syndrome”……how funny!
But YOU ROCK dear Lebo!! Indeed, why not? We have had a few cases like this where members just met someone for the hell of it ……maybe destiny….and even if they did not fall in love, went on to be extremely powerful business partners and lifelong friends……even adding much value to the world they could not have done alone ……it will be what it will be!! J
It is just a rendezvous to see how you click ……….love finds us when we open doors……..and there are a million possibilities!! Our accurate singles matching and date profiling always ensures you have some common ground to start a new love interest with a guy who WANTS to meet you!
Seeing you get a sound assessment and basic qualities of a new potential match, why not give it a chance and risk meeting, especially if you like what you see, never mind the “ifs, buts and maybes”? Always work on evidence…….you meet, you like ..or simply, you do not wish to explore further! No logical human is going to look at a pic or profile and swoon with love!! Attraction may be exciting, but that is nowhere near a budding romance!
Love and light then for a super great day further ….and keep the new approach…explore the “unknown” …always!!
My Dating Agency Rocks!
Hi dearest Shannon,
MY DATING AGENCY ROCKS!!
Dating is hard work! I realise more and more that patience pays off, if we appealed to everyone there would be no singles dating and no expert matchmakers or date coaches needed! You truly are the best expert and professional dating agency around – not just throwing dates at me but caring about my every move, thank you.
Thanks so much for your simplistic idea on time and life’s journey, it is a beautiful way of looking at life, so true, every moment in time is taking us to some final destination (because we all have one, one day), and being stuck in one spot after a break-up brings no joy or fulfilment, it is over and done with and needs to be boxed!! I am back on “the dating train” and not giving up on finding love!
So I am very happy to meet with GE, and I have finally moved on from SJ, I really needed this nudge to get on with life and meet the awesome bachelors you have been introducing to me….here I go with renewed energy!
I want to thank you again for being really expert date coaches and professional matchmakers for our corporate dating world, in my 7 months with you I have learnt so much, see dating, love and relationships through new eyes, and am very empowered now to make better – and lasting – decisions!
All the date tips helped prepare me, and your “in the moment” coaching is better than getting a PhD in dating, if there was a place to even get this! LOL!
My fondest wishes to you all, and keep up the good work – you are the best dating site ever!
Response from Shannon
Awesome angel, you rock as always!! Proud of you and honoured to be your date coach and matchmaker!! I empathise after your break-up, but please see it as a way to make the next “trial” even better……..what is meant to be, will be! Dating sites abound and it is a minefield, keep to your “selective” matches and save energy and time, we are always looking after you with eligible bachelors to meet. I have never looked back since using a dating agency and you are the best!
It is so necessary to keep with the flow when us singles are dating, and the rhythm of life when single and dating on your road to find soul mate love is what it is…..and so easy to stagnate, we get into a bit of a comfort zone and it just is so less hassle and my dog is still my best friend, so who needs a date, LOL? But there is plenty time to do that one day when we arrive at our destination, even if it is a pit stop …….life is full of gifts!!
I have a very wise relationship mentor/guru and he asked me a while back “where do you see yourself down the line?”…….”down the line” was quite descriptive because time and the future is relative and infinite….as a dating agency it is up to keep the momentum going. We do the work, you have the fun!
I said my life is this train and it is headed to the end of the journey as surely every journey has an end, sure as nuts, when or where is to be revealed one day.
In the meantime, the train stops at little stations along the way and I get off and explore, and once ready, it is hop back on the train to the next stop down the line…..and every stop is the “now” that I revel in, enjoy, “feel” and just appreciate ……….better even for the next stop! Successful dating is the same, forward momentum, stop to explore, if love does not find you, you move on to the next stop!
One day you find the “stop” which you do not want to leave, just yet, and only time will tell when …….until life forces you back on the train ……J (not exactly rocket science, hee hee, but that is how I see it! Momentum never stops!). And then we keep in mind, there is a terminus and it all ends, so never waste a moment.
Great then on SJ …….he too is so wrapped in his journey….maybe he will get off his juggernaut and also stop to appreciate the “now”, with some encouragement! J
Brilliant on GE …….believe it, if successful, the rewards are beyond imagination! If not, our train moves on angel!!
Have the most awesome day, and BIG HUGS!!
Lotsa love and light until next time!