Love Bites – Def Leppard
If you’ve got love in your sights
Watch out, love bites
When you make love, do you look in your mirror?
Who do you think of?
Does he look like me?
Do you tell lies?
And say that it’s forever?
Do you think twice, or just touch and see?
When you’re alone, do you let go?
Are you wild and willing or is it just for show?
Ooh, come on
Shannon, owner of two professional and upmarket dating agencies, and a matchmaker and date coach for close on two decades with good standing, is often asked by hopeful Singles seeking to find love and serious about a soulmate “What are the tricks I need to use so I can win at the games of love?”.
Her strong advice is “there should truly be NO TRICKS!!! That is the point, if everybody presented themselves honestly and authentically, more faith and trust in the dating game would be a solid bedrock for budding relationships to blossom.
It is not called the ‘dating game’ for no reason though, and like every game, there are rules and boundaries and ways to plan a dating strategy that is bound to work!! As a dating coach and relationship therapist, Shannon sees most troublesome issues that happen AFTER love has blossomed (and maybe dying now) come from unrealistic expectations to start with, not managing realities, wishful thinking and the wrong framework of reference on what a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship actually means.
Many hopefuls confuse lust with love, and many agendas abound (a leg up financially, I want to start a family/baby fever, I want someone to go out with and be there when I am available, FWB, or whatever) and even “it is about MY needs being met!”.
Dating Requires Attraction First And Foremost
What is attraction? Who is attractive to who? There are beauty tricks, tricks to flirting, tricks to enhance social skills, still though, attraction factors like compatibility and likemindness count for much on where to start as part of attraction. And every human is attracted to what grabs them – so how do we ensure our perfect attraction (and aim it at the people RIGHT for you!) factors and be a man or woman magnet?.
Do you know your “type?” or is it just the best looking guy or gal at hand? There are certain “types” that may attract (or not) and the trick to dating successfully means knowing yourself and confidently stepping up and showing up as you are, because if you do not like yourself or feel good about yourself, how can another be expected to? If a little help is needed to be your best, your date coach can guide you on your dating image! Then you will attract your type, honestly. There are many others out there also looking for love, but who and what will be the best potential for YOU?
If you keep repeating bad dating patterns, you may be misrepresenting yourself in an effort to attract others because you feel you are not good enough – the image you then portray may not be authentic and false and untrue – which may be a red flag and subconsciously sabotage. Again, then you are bound to attract the same types who are pretending or are not who they say they really are!! No fertile ground for an honest relationship to take flame exists!!
The tall, dark and handsome guy with blue eyes, for example, maybe great eye candy, but a hopeless partner, just as the foxy blonde may have a guy falling over himself, but what kind of partner will she be? Personality, character, IQ and EQ and capacity for kindness, humour, respect and dedication to see out the distance, are good starting points. This is why we call it “dating by design and not default” and a dating coach is so very helpful!
A Date Coach Can Guide Your Dating Strategy
Investing in yourself by getting professional guidance from a dating coach is very smart and can prove invaluable!! Especially if your date coach is also a matchmaker, as she will know all her clients and be able to introduce her “virtual friends” to you, in a far more safe and natural way than flying blind online and just punching in the dark!! And never mind the risks…
A dating coach and matchmaker are NOT just for the helpless, lost, forlorn and broken Singles, but very much there for highly eligible (good shape body, heart and mind) who value themselves and seek also the best for them, the smart, successful and determined ones who realise the value of sourcing out the recruitment in the first place. They are goal-driven and work to a plan and get guidance! Your matchmaker invests equally in YOU because it can make or break your future, not so?
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