Ahhhhh, lovely that you could take time out on your awesome trip to share with me precious John, even while overseas!! Indeed, the F1 was very exciting – all my favourite drivers on the podium!!! We are so pleased you asked for guidance on how to guide your budding new romance, and trust this helps. Remember, love is easy, humans are complex – so much of what is swirling in your mind right now is just noise 😊
Dating Has Been Very Successful – Next Level, The How
I know you place value on basic star signs and after starting over after being widowed and enjoying a very happy marriage, it is never easy to date like we do when we are younger, so let’s unpack your issues you addressed!! Virgo is notorious for procrastination because of a tendency towards perfectionism (sometimes a bit OCD?) – which in analytical terms translates to fear of failure!! As a Virgo you certainly are without pretentiousness, always want to be “fair and just” and your big heart is very sensitive!!
The result of second-guessing yourself is too much overthinking which leads to literally being – “frozen in fear/doubt” – the Reptilian Brain is our absolute survival mechanism, based on Flight, Fight…..or Freeze!!! It can even be linked to an inability to actually get started (all the planning, configuration, pros and cons are a perfect plan in the head but just unable to translate to ACTION! The euphoria of a dopamine fix can cause brain fog too!!) on a “project” and yes, taking a love interest to the next level is a project – back to fear of failure (rejection) which you recognize😊
Dating – The Unspoken Signals When There is Chemistry
Honestly, Joan is being very compliant and compassionate and obviously gifting you the chance to click into your masculine divine (natural protector role) and step up in the typical ‘hero’ role to compliment her feminine divine (being truly a lovely soft and caring person too despite her achievements) as she values you hugely, obviously, and no fame/fortune/glitz/wealth must taint this divine state of Being…..(pause and think here!) ……she is blessed with huge success and rewards and more, but despite all that she does not have the loving comfort, approval and undying love of a real man who cherishes her (unpause) and she has certainly invested her time and heart in you…..and what is life worth without love??? Humans are hardwired to be loving partners…….in all our earthly “nakedness and vulnerability” as there is no perfection except the state of feeling loved and wanted itself, as flawed as it may be!!!
Joan is clearly exceptionally intuitive and compassionate and smart and sees in you the ‘possible’ qualities that you can bring forth ….so stop overthinking angel, and just reach for her hand and hold her tight!!! Scorpios are deeply loving and passionate we know, and so is Virgo when they get over themselves!!! Just do it!!! Rather to be certain than drive yourself crazy with doubts …..if it doesn’t take flame then at least you know you tried.
Why Does Guilt Get in The Way of Happiness???
Never feel guilty about what you earn/own/are worth ……you worked hard for what you have too and have much to offer…..and not everyone is born equal ….leaders get the trophies because they took/take the risks, the followers get their security and stability the leader provides and generally are happy with their rewards too …..always be humble and always give help with true empathy and goodwill, but never be a sucker because of guilt either….you are the leader, protector and provider for many because they ELECTED you to take care of them….they could NOT do what you did/do!!!
Accept your gifts with good grace…..and yes, the Bible says “give and thou shall receive” …..and that is very true. BUT, freebies and “guilt giving” can be very toxic as it undermines the survival instinct in people receiving and robs them of initiative to strive…..and achieve…..sadly a predominant condition in our country with people with begging bowls!!! Get over it …..truly helping would be the old philosophy of giving a fishing rod and teaching them to fish…and fend for themselves…that is personal development!!!
Both Parties are Emotionally Available
We have established you are BOTH truly emotionally available, emotionally intelligent, a very, very good man and a fabulous lady, very human …so what’s the problem, hahahahahaha!!!!! Quit overthinking angel and just relax and let go and know all your “goodness” is manifesting in the blessings bestowed upon you…and Joan is the Big Prize….go for it!!! Stop comparing!!!!! Graciously accept this gift of Life and Love….opportunity does not always knock twice……you are ALLOWED to enjoy life and be that vibrant man you are hiding away…saddle up Cowboy!!! 😊
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