Intuition in Dating: Finding Clarity With a Matchmaker

Getting a Dating Strategy Together – Our Dating and Relationship Architect

When Too Many Inner Voices Clash and Confuse – Must I? Mustn’t I??

It is not a secret that many intentional Singles yearn for the answers on where to find a truly compatible partner/soulmate/lover/friend but do not know where to ask the right questions – anxiety that their desires and longing are “wrong” because as intelligent and successful achievers, they are expected to have all the solutions. But they do not!!! Fear of the unknown, the urban myths and very real risks of putting oneself out there are very real.

Dating Is Called a Game for a Reason – There Are Rules

What ultimately happens is desperation sets in and then desperate actions (like grabbing the first likely “prospect” who may show up on a dating app, be introduced by friends/family or even a casual encounter) are blindly rushed into!! The power of the human mind can be very self-delusional when there are little or no other “choices” and no basic PLAN to follow. The secret is to try and think with clarity, research all the options, learn to understand the Singles’ Landscape, and then to find whatever “niche” you feel is your sweet spot to navigate safely. It is NOT just choosing a MAN or a WOMAN that ticks a few boxes, and dating like lovestruck teenagers, but formulating a clear Plan of Action.

Your Trusted and Expert Matchmaker Has a Plan for You!!

Finding out exactly how a personal and caring dating agency can help you build your own framework of reference with objectives and goals, with a blueprint designed to suit individual needs, personality, character, lifestyle and needs and more, is a huge leap in being progressive – it is a Project. The age old quote “We often do not KNOW what we want, until we know what we DON’T want” is proven over and over again in the dating game. Shannon, a professional and expert matchmaker with more than 20 years’ experience at the coalface of human behaviour and needs on the subject of finding love again, says she is always amazed at how many Singletons that call on her help tell “I am looking for a soulmate” but have totally no idea what this entails. They always mention what their bad experiences have been and that is what they DON’T want, but further than that, they are lost, and it is no longer just about “they must be sexy, gorgeous and slender” (or with ladies: “he must be tall, dark and handsome and spoil me, and be stable and loyal”. And more sincerely, if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is! Who wants to be shocked into reality months later “I have been duped and conned!”.

Key Points : Calmly Listen to Your Inner Voices and Sift the Fantasy from Reality

• Everyone has an “inner voice” and difficult decisions often involve four distinct voices: desire, fear, obligation, and the deeper self, which involves total honesty to YOU.
• There are conflicting voices as many perspectives are based on different situations: the loudest inner voice is not always the wisest; each voice offers insight and requires researching the origin, and potential distortion is often caused by emotions (like being alone and single is painful).
• Finding clarity involves the FOUR SACRED “R’s” as Shannon says: Separating competing inner voices can reveal what each one knows, fears, protects, and values. Namely, the REASON one is single, what solutions need to be RESEARCHED to banish the delusional ideas (the maybe’s and what if’s), then finding the RESOLUTION in order to have clarity and a design for a successful RESULT. This is called strategic thinking long before the moonbeams and roses!!!!
• Your personal Matchmaker has been a Relationship Architect for many Singletons and has a very clear design that applies to each individual once you discuss your needs in finding a new meaningful relationship.

The Various Voices That Sabotage Our Chances at New Love:

1. The first voice is that of deep longing and the very human feeling based on “Desire.” It asks, “What do I want?” but how many people ask the real question “What do I need?”. There is a big difference between desire and actual needs!!!
2. The next very loud voice is “Fear,” which asks, “What am I trying to protect?” or “Do I truly want the responsibility of commitment?” and often “Am I loveable and can I attract what I want?”. Fear factor varies on a scale from 1 -10 on many life experiences!!! “Do I have Avoidance Attachments?” and even more relevant “Am I subconsciously self-sabotaging my own chances?”
3. Third is the not-so-exciting voice of reason on what roles they may have to play: “Obligation,” which asks, “What do I believe I am supposed to do?” I might be letting others down, for example, or I may feel an obligation to continue being a people pleaser? Why do I try so hard and fail??
4. Finally, the fourth voice is that of the “Deeper Self,” or as some may say “My Higher Consciousness” or my boundaries or moral compass – what is my objective, or am I hiding an agenda because I need something else like financial security, better status in society, or truly someone to share my entire Self with?

The clarity often comes when we see a new clear perspective on the challenges that the four voices bring as it relates to making decisions and applying our better judgement and discernment. And if your relationship architect is beside you while you draw a clear blueprint of your new vision board, those voices will stop the rush of noise that swirls continuously with more doubt!! The loudest voice is not usually the wise voice!! When seeking out a new pathway to find lasting love we are hyper-alert: the feelings of near panic and even depression, urgency, anxiety, desire, and responsibility can each feel like the overriding strongest voice, authoritative and definitive and sometimes crushing. The mistake lies not in having these voices but in not taking the time to understand them and see them as different parts of ourselves and then to listen carefully to what each has to offer us in the important, seemingly unresolvable decisions we face in our lives.

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