1st Date Tips

 

At MatchVIP we don't believe in sending you on numerous unsuitable dates. We make sure that the individuals you are introduced to, are potential long-term partners that suit certain criteria we agree to upfront.

But what is expected of you on the first date? Simply follow these easy dating tips and your date is sure to be a success.

  • When selecting a venue, it needs to be a neutral and quiet place (not a club) so that you and your date are able to communicate easily. We also advise that you meet for a quick drink date at first - which should take no more than an hour. If all goes well on this date, a dinner date would be your next step
  • Very important: Under no circumstances should you be late!
  • Cell phones can be distracting, so turn it off or put it on silent. Need we say more?
  • Make sure that you look and feel your best. You will find that when you look your best, you will feel confident and in control - exuding positive energy to the people around you, ensuring that your first impression is a good one. Acknowledge to yourself that you've got what it takes to impress and be impressed on your date. We are all naturally attracted to people who are confident and happy
  • Smile, smile, and smile some more. Remember that first dates should be fun - and this is also a good way to put your date at ease (who is most likely experiencing the same feelings that you are!)
  • Compliment your date - but make sure it is a genuine compliment or the sentiment could backfire
  • Be polite, courteous, and show off your naturally dazzling personality - even to the waiter. Don't be rude to wait staff - your date can tell a lot about you from the way that you treat other people
  • Keep the conversation light, positive and engaging. Try to stay in the now, and avoid topics such as past relationships, politics, religion, dieting and marriage. Remember that MatchVIP has already pre-screened your date to suit your unique criteria - so there is no need to turn this date into an interrogation. All you need to do is enjoy the evening out and have fun!
  • Always be yourself and be honest about who you are. Your date is interested in getting to know you - so open up a little but be careful not to reveal too much as you want to leave a little mystery for the second and third date
  • Two-way conversation is vital. Ask open-ended questions and avoid monopolising the conversation with rambling anecdotes about yourself and your work
  • Listen carefully and show interest in what your date has to say. Be sure to focus on your date and not to get distracted by your surroundings. Be engaging and flirt subtly. We are all naturally attracted to a person who is interested in us
  • Quit while you're ahead and don't order that second bottle of wine. Too much alcohol could cause you to disclose more information than you would have liked to for a first date and this could leave you feeling awkward the next day
  • Don't order the most expensive item on the menu. When the bill arrives it is polite to offer to pay (men and women). If there is a mutual interest and you would like to explore the possibility of taking this friendship further, we suggest that you stick to the basics and let the man pick up the bill. If there is no interest then we suggest that you split the bill and go your separate ways
  • If you meet someone you like be polite and generous - but never over-enthusiastic. You might just scare them off if you are too intense too soon. No date can progress into a relationship unless both parties are comfortable with the pace at which the friendship is moving
  • Don't get physical right away. Take the time to get to know one another. In reality you need more than physical attraction to be in a healthy, mutually beneficial, long-term relationship
  • If you like your date there is no harm in letting them know that you enjoyed the evening and would like to see them again. A simple comment like: "I really enjoyed tonight and it would be good to see you again some time" is all it takes. Their reaction will also help you assess whether they are feeling the same about you

MOST IMPORTANTLY we would like to advise you to be open-minded and receptive on the first date. Don't stereotype or judge people as this could cause you to overlook someone who could be a potentially perfect partner for you if you just took the time to get to know them. Look for all the positive aspects of a person when you meet them, instead of focussing on what you believe is missing or wrong. We strongly suggest that you meet with a person at least four times before deciding that you are not interested in getting to know them further. Remember that chemistry is a combination of having certain aspects in common and feeling at ease with one another - This very seldom (if ever) occurs on the first date and takes time to develop.

Whether the date goes well or not, being polite with your date is a mark of your personality and good character. The calibre of individuals who become members at MatchVIP understand this concept thoroughly, and take care to show courtesy to all.