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What do men want? (Part 2)

Monday, 15 February 2010 20:21 Bonita Erasmus
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Right, so we’ve covered the visual part of what men want.  But hold on ladies, just being physically attractive won’t guarantee that a man falls for you.  The second topic up for discussion:  Men are attracted to women who are trustworthy, kind and feminine.

A woman’s personality is what men consider to be her most beautiful trait.  I personally hear this from men who sign up with my dating service on a daily basis.  What a pleasure when he discovers that the person he finds physically attractive is also someone he can completely trust.  Trust not to cheat on him.  Trust in such a manner that he can share his deepest feelings and emotional needs.  Yes, he has found love!

A cold, hardened and criticising demeanour will scare off any man.  Getting angry and screaming is also not considered to be an attractive trait.  Women who are gentle, caring and sincere will be sure to win a man over.  Recent studies have shown that men rate emotional stability and good character right up there in terms of choosing a life partner.

A feminine lady is a lady he will be proud to introduce to his friends when he has found love.  If you choose not to be feminine then that’s fine as well.  But any reputable dating service will tell you that you should expect him to introduce you as one of his friends and not his girlfriend.  Being one of the boys doesn’t mean you are going to win one of them over.

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written by Jen, February 21, 2010
I totally agree here. And it works both ways. If you find a man who is physically attractive to you, find you can trust him, he is there for you ....then you have found a keeper. It is again like I say....not just about looks, it's the character that you have to live with and love when the looks fade with age and time. Unfortunately in my circle of friends, we have a male friend who is the typical "wolf" that our mothers warned us about. He is now a very old looking 53, plays on the internet....dates many many women, waits until he beds them and OFF.........and gets a sadistic pleasure of doing this. My friend and I were talking just talking the other night and she said to me that he has totally switched her off men, and I agreed......I feel the same way, as if I have lost trust in men as no decent woman wants to just be a "challange" to a man who hangs around waiting to score to just dump a woman after she has got her hopes up that he is coming back because he really likes her, only to find that it was a game to him. I find the men in their forties (In general), I'm not saying all men, they are at a very bad time in their lives, very bitter from a divorse, almost hate women.......want their space....at about 50, then he is ready to start loving and finding a partner........but then again like my other dear male friend.....has committed and got engaged to a lovely 31 year old lady, he has gone out of his way to be a wonderfull man to her as all his buddies are in total awe of him for getting a young woman....so this union will definitely last, becasue HE is making the effort to keep the relationship on track as if he treats her bad she can find a younger man in his 30's and dump him, then he would look a fool to all of us. As one man put it to us.........it's all about the man having money and the woman being young and attractive that makes the union. He buys youth and beauty, she depends on his financial security. A lot of women in their forties are just accepting a life of loneliness. I have.
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written by Bonita, February 22, 2010
NO NO NO!! Never accept your circumstances if you are not happy!!! If loneliness is ok and you're happy to live that way then fine. Just because you are 40 and a woman there is no need for you to be alone unless you want to be alone. Why not rather sign up with a dating service? There are so many dating services out there. There is sure to be one that will meet your needs and suit your profile perfectly.

If you have taken care of your appearance over the past couple of years and you are emotionally in the 'right frame of mind' (and by this I mean positive and ready to take on life) you WILL find your match if you set your mind on finding him. This will not happen instantly, it will take time, and yes, a lot of effort, but every woman I have come across that has set her mind on finding that special person has found him in the end. You need to make the effort, get out there and start dating.

I am passionate about love and finding love for others. It is my belief that God created mankind with a longing to be with another person. This is why I feel there is no need to accept being lonely if you do not want to be. Everyone out there deserves to be in a mutually beneficial, loving relationship if they are ready to be in one! But just beware that you are sure you know (and have) what it takes to stay in a relationship… We tend to believe it’s a magical world where everything is perfect. Think again!


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