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Chemistry is without doubt one of the most over used and misunderstood terms in the dating industry. The media has led us to believe that chemistry is something magical that happens when we meet other singles and is something over which we have no control. MatchVIP would like you to rest assured that this is not true.
In our July Blog we responded to a comment from Tasha where we determined that chemistry is a combination of:
- Comfort level
- Compatibility
- Physical attraction
You are welcome to read the full Blog by clicking here.
Sure, you could be attracted to someone the first time you set sight on them. This is a chemical reaction towards that person which is based on physical appeal but has no real substance in the long run. There will also be a time when you will meet someone you just don’t see yourself dating for some or other insignificant reason. But as long as they seem nice enough you should really give them a chance. Who knows they might be the perfect partner for you in every other possible way!
Chemistry takes time to cultivate and grow. You need to get to know each other by sharing experiences and in doing so forming a bond. If you are looking to be in a healthy, long term relationship then you should meet at least 4 times before making a final decision about the particular person.
Chemistry can improve. We are naturally more attracted to someone when we know that our feelings are reciprocated. This kind of attraction is a lot stronger than the physical attractiveness of that person and nurtures a lasting bond.
It is important to separate the myths from facts surrounding chemistry. We hope this article has cleared this up somewhat. Let us know if you have any questions. As always we would love to hear from you.
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written by LEKHOTLA, September 19, 2009
written by LEKHOTLA, September 19, 2009
written by Judine, September 20, 2009
It was interesting to read your article about chemistry.
I agree that sometimes i have met someone and was totally captivated by them and thought we had good "chemistry going". But more often than not it wore off in a relatively short period of time. And then on other occasions i met someone and didn't really think much of that person but then after meeting a few more times we found we had a lot more in common and a different kind of attraction grew between us that had a stronger and longer lasting effect.
I also think the whole thing of seeing somebody and being totally swept off your feet is a Hollywood promoted romantic concept designed for movie en tv entertainement. Although it does sometimes happen like that but most often it doesn't. People then think if it doesn't happen like that (what they see on tv and movies), that it isn't right or what they wanted.
This is real life and things happen differently than in the movies. And because of this romantic idealized view a lot of people miss out on a lot of potential opportunities to find the right person.